It’s true… it won’t last forever!

My friend Kim, whose daughter Amelia is just a couple months older than Julia, wrote the most beautiful blog post on her blog.  It’s called, “It Won’t Last Forever” and is about the fact that all the daily stress of having a toddler is temporary and that childhood is just a temporary thing and that eventually we’ll be older adults, retired from our professions, no longer worried about bedtime routines, picky eating, temper tantrums or biting kids at daycare.  Her blog post is a good reminder to enjoy the little things each day: the hugs and kisses, the sweet way Julia says “I love you,” the way she says “Thank you, Daddy!” whenever Ken does something for her, the way she laughs hysterically at some of the silly sounds we make for her.  Kim’s post is a good reminder that you need to stop every now and then to just live in the moment rather than worrying about our daily tasks: making breakfast, making lunch, doing the dishes, doing the laundry, dropping Julia off at daycare, etc.

One of the things I most enjoyed about our time in Aruba is that, aside from when we were in our hotel room, we didn’t have access to the internet and our phones weren’t connected so we couldn’t get emails, texts or phone calls.  I liked being “unplugged” and just being together as a family.  Not being connected to the outside world meant that we were more connected to one another.  We were able to just watch Julia enjoy herself, play with her without being connected to a device.  We, as a family, need to be better about turning off our phones or putting them away and being in the present so that we can enjoy the little moments because what Kim said is true: it won’t last forever.  And I want to remember the fun parts of our days.  I don’t want my memory of this time to be of doing dishes and laundry, I want it to be of playing with Julia, singing songs, doing puzzles together, drawing pictures, and playing on the playground.  Thank you, Kim, for that important reminder.

Family Trip to Aruba!

Warning: This is going to be a picture heavy post!

Late last night, we got back from a wonderful and relaxing family trip to Aruba.  Ken’s parents have a timeshare with the Marriott which they haven’t been using as much recently since they bought a second home in Florida, and which they are able to trade in for pretty much any Marriott Vacation Club location in the world!  They were nice enough to gift us, for our anniversary, a week in Aruba!  We had a bunch of unused points on Southwest so we didn’t have to pay for airfare, either!  All we had to pay for was food and activities on the Island.

This was our first real family vacation, just the three of us going somewhere not to see family.  It was necessary and so nice to spend time together without any agenda or responsibilities during the week.

We left EARLY Monday morning (our flight was at 6:30 AM which meant we left the house around 4!)  Julia did surprisingly well despite being woken up way before her normal wake-up time.  We had a quick layover in Orlando and then boarded our flight for Aruba!  After a frustrating time checking in for the flight and getting Julia’s carseat (which got lost and didn’t show up until the next day!) we finally made it to our hotel, the Marriott Surf Club.  We had a beautiful view from our room! 8.18.2014(46)

The hotel is very family friendly… there are two big pools, a lazy river, a water slide, tons of kids activities throughout the day, movie nights, a beautiful beach, etc.  It’s also close to a lot of the activities that are available on the water and it’s a pretty short walk from a commercial stretch with lots of restaurants, shops, and a couple of malls.

Our first day there we got settled into our room and then headed down to the pool to relax a bit.  Julia apparently finds the, sun, wind and sound of water to be very relaxing as she took several naps throughout the week right next to the pool!  8.18.2014(44)

We took her around the lazy river a few times: 8.18.2014(45)

and we introduced her to the beach for the first time!  8.18.2014(43)

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At first she was a little afraid of the waves but after a while she figured out that they weren’t too scary and she absolutely LOVED playing in the sand!

Once we got Julia’s carseat, we were able to relax a little more and really enjoy ourselves!  Ken had been to Aruba before (this was my first time in the Caribbean!) so he knew that we wanted to get a rental car.  We were very glad to have it since it gave us the freedom to explore the island without having to get taxis each time we wanted to leave the resort.  We explored on the Northshore of the island a bit, where there were some old ruins: 8.18.2014(41)

a lovely little church: 8.18.2014(40)

some beautiful views of beaches/rocks (though the waves on the Northshore are much rougher so you can’t really go in the water to swim):8.18.2014(23)

 

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and Phillips Animal Garden, which was probably the highlight of the trip as far as Julia was concerned.  She has absolutely no fear around animals and had so much fun feeding the animals.  She especially loved giving carrots to the goats.  As soon as she fed a carrot to a goat, she would turn around and ask for another carrot.  She’d go right up to them, stick the carrot in their mouth and then do a little dance of excitement about having fed the goat.  It was pretty adorable! 8.18.2014(39)

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They had all kinds of animals there including camels, donkeys, cows, parrots, snakes, pigs, ferrets and many others.  The goats were probably the biggest hit for Julia! 8.18.2014(35)

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We also visited a Donkey Sanctuary but for some reason Julia wasn’t as into the donkeys as she was the goats… I think she liked the goats were closer to her size! 8.18.2014(18)

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One of the days, we took a drive through Aruba’s National Park.  There were a couple of caves we stopped to explore, and it was fun to just see all the scenery in the Park!  If we go back to Aruba some day (which I hope we do!) it would be great to get out and hike around a bit but with Julia it was a little hard to get in and out of the car.  The next time we go we’ll also try to get a car that’s 4-wheel drive so we can go off-roading and head down to the Natural Pool.  This time though, the caves were pretty cool!  8.18.2014(15)

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Another big hit with Julia was the Jolly Pirates boat trip that we did… Ken had been on this pirate ship one of the last times he was in Aruba with his family and he remembered it being tons of fun.  We had also heard from other people that it was a good thing to do with kids.  Julia did have a really good time… they played music the whole time so she loved dancing! 8.18.2014(25)

and the movement of the boat even put her to sleep for over an hour! 8.18.2014(28)

Ken & I also got to go snorkeling, which was tons of fun! 8.18.2014(26)

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Sadly we didn’t get any pictures of me all trussed up in my snorkeling gear but we did get a beautiful family picture on the boat! 8.18.2014(22)

and I got to wear my new beach hat! 8.18.2014(29)

Back at the resort, Julia really loved the iguanas that we found all over the place! 8.18.2014(32)

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One day she even got to feed them!  Just like with the goats, she had no fear and just went right up to them to hand them lettuce to eat.

Of course Aruba has some must-see tourist attractions including the California lighthouse: 8.18.2014(9)

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There were birds flying all around the area where the lighthouse is, and Julia had tons of fun chasing them and yelling “come birds!”  8.18.2014(14)

 

A lot of time was also spent playing in and around the pool.  Julia woke up each morning, looked out the window and pointed out the water (which she still calls “agua”) then started pulling at her clothes indicating she wanted to take them off.  She would pick out her swimsuit, ask to put on her hat and her “agua shoe-ah” (water shoes) and then we’d get ready to go down to the pool! 8.18.2014(20)

We had a few nice dinners out: 8.18.2014(33)

and Julia learned to eat directly from an apple: 8.18.2014(31)

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and she also learned to do the splits… a trick we didn’t know she was capable of! 8.18.2014(19)On our last day in town, we had to take a picture of the “I love Aruba” sign: 8.18.2014(5)

and one last picture in front of the hotel: 8.18.2014(4)

and of course we were sad to leave (though apparently unless she’s actually sad, Julia can’t make a sad face!): 8.18.2014(6)

Customs and immigration were quite the ordeal and Julia was an absolute nightmare on the plane from Aruba to Orlando but late last night we finally made it home and we were glad to have made it safely (Julia even slept through the landing in Baltimore!)8.18.2014(2)

 

Today we had to come back to reality, back down from our vacation cloud… we both went back to work and Julia went back to school but today was her first day in her new classroom!  So here, I present to you, her first day of school picture for the 2014-2015 school year!

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Visitors from New Orleans!

Last weekend we had some visitors from New Orleans! One of Ken’s Mason brothers, Ed, came with his wife, Susan, for a nice long weekend visit to Baltimore. Susan had been here before but this was Ed’s first time in Baltimore. Ed is a big Cardinals fan and since the Cardinals were in town we took advantage and went to not one but TWO O’s vs. Cardinals games.

Friday night we went to the game and left Julia home with a babysitter. We had a great time cheering on the O’s! 8.18.2014(56)Ken & I left the game happy because the O’s won, but Ed & Susan were not as pleased.  8.18.2014(57)

After the game there was a beautiful Orioles 60th Anniversary Celebration and Fireworks Display.  They brought back a bunch of the Orioles Hall-of-Famers so it was very special to see them all on the field together.

Saturday we spent the early part of the afternoon exploring… we went to Faidley’s for lunch and showed Ed & Susan the Inner Harbor.  Julia was a bit of a mess that day but she still had a good time at the game.  She also loved playing at the Splash Pad at the Inner Harbor.  She liked the “Wild Bill” hats they gave out at the game! 8.18.2014(54)

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and she was very excited to meet the Oriole Bird! 8.18.2014(52)

Her attitude toward the Bird has changed drastically over the last year or so… when we went to FanFest before the season started, Julia was terrified of the Bird but over the past several months she has slowly warmed up to him and this time when she saw him she jumped up and down shouting “Oriole bird!”  She gave him a high five but she didn’t want to get too close to him.  I love how she recognizes the Oriole bird so whenever she sees someone wearing an Oriole shirt/hat with the bird on it, she says “Orioles!”  Then she will occasionally add in a little cheer of “Go Orioles!”

It was really nice having Ed & Susan visit since it was like having a cool Aunt & Uncle in town.  Julia liked them right away… 8.18.2014(55)

and they brought a bunch of treats (spices mostly!) from New Orleans!

Sunday before they had to leave town, we took them for a visit to Fort McHenry since Ed is a big history buff just like Ken! 8.18.2014(48)

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Julia didn’t have the patience to sit through the educational video but she had a great time running around outside!

After Ed & Susan left, Ken finally hung up the swing that Bubbe & Zaydie bought for Julia and she absolutely LOVED it! 8.18.2014(49)

8.18.2014(50)After swinging and dinner it was time for an early bedtime for Julia so we could pack and get ready for our trip!

 

What does Daddy do?

In the past few days we’ve made a couple of additional meals from Blue Apron and all three meals we’ve made have been delicious.  A couple nights ago we made this Pan-Seared Salmon with Fennel & Heirloom Potato Salad which was fantastic! BA

And then last night we made Trofie Pasta with Golden Garlic & Heirloom Tomatoes, which was also a big hit!  I didn’t get a picture of the pasta since we started to gobble it all up as soon as it was ready but we served it to our friends Ed & Susan who are visiting from New Orleans and everyone enjoyed it!  On the side we had a salad with Sunflower greens and grape tomatoes, as well as some garlic bread and then for dessert we had a Carrot Cake from Whole Foods.

In the past few days, Julia’s started answering the question, “what does Daddy do at work?” by saying “Eye doctor.”  We got it on video and it is possibly the cutest thing ever!  Sometimes she just says, “eyes,” so I’ll prompt her… “Eye what?” and then she says, “Eye doctor.”  Too cute!

And on another note… today is a big day for Julia.

She’s 22 months old today!  (I CANNOT believe that she will be 2 in just two months.  That is insane.)  For comparison, here’s a photo comparing her at 10 months on August 8th last year (at my parents’ house) and at 22 months on August 8th this year.  8.8.2014(4)

 

It’s also a big day for  her because it’s her last day of this school year!  She started on August 19th last year and today’s her last day in her current classroom with the teachers she’s been with since she was 10 months old!  Daycare closes next week for “summer cleaning” and then when we return from our trip she’ll be moving up to the next class with new teachers, new kids, new toys, etc.  She’ll also stop sleeping in a crib at daycare and will start sleeping on a cot.  And she’ll be bringing a lunch box with her to school each day!  Here she was on her first day and her last day of school: 8.8.2014(3)

She’s gone from not even crawling to running all over the place.  From just beginning to babble to speaking in 2-3 words phrases.  From not rolling over to never staying still.  So much has changed in the last year, it’s unbelievable!

A Blue Apron Recipe: West African Vegetable and Peanut Stew

I recently heard about Blue Apron, a service much like Stitch Fix in that you can sign up to receive boxes as frequently or as infrequently as you like.  The difference is that the boxes from Blue Apron contain the ingredients for 3 meals designed to feed 2, 4 or 6 people.  You can sign up either for vegetarian or non-vegetarian meals and you can decide each week after seeing the recipes whether you want to receive a box or not.  If you opt to receive a box, you will receive the ingredients portioned out in the right amounts for the recipe in a refrigerated box and you get a nice little recipe card that shows you how to prepare the meal.

We have not actually signed up for Blue Apron but it’s definitely intriguing in that it takes the planning and shopping out of the equation (the two hardest parts of cooking, especially when you have a busy and active toddler at home!).  They pick the recipes, do the shopping and send you the ingredients.  All you have to do is follow the recipe and cook a delicious home-cooked meal!  Since we are interested in maybe looking into signing up, we decided to try out some of their recipes to see how they are.  I had heard from a couple friends who are signed up that the amount of prepwork they require is overwhelming for a mid-week meal but since Ken & I often enjoy making complicated meals I figured we might not mind the prep-work.  The one problem I foresee is that they don’t guarantee that you’ll have leftovers since the meals are perfectly portioned for 2 people, which means you still have to think about what to cook 4 other nights of the week.  I love me some good leftovers so that might be problematic.

Last night I made a West African Vegetable Stew with Peanuts and we served it over Israeli CousCous.  Here is the recipe, with my own changes added in!

  • 1 3/4 cups of Israeli couscous
  • 4 Cloves Garlic
  • 1 Small Piece Ginger
  • 1 Onion
  • 1 Scallion
  • 1 Small Eggplant
  • 1 Sweet Potato
  • 1 Zucchini
  • 2 Teaspoons Ground Cumin
  • 1/4 Teaspoon Cinnamon
  • 1 Tablespoon Tomato Paste
  • 1 14.5-Ounce Can Diced Tomatoes
  • 1 Cup Vegetable Broth + 2.25 Cups of Vegetable Broth
  • 1/3 Cup Peanut Butter

First, toast Israeli couscous in a medium pot over medium-high heat in Olive Oil until the pearls start to brown/toast a little bit.  Once they have started to toast, add 2.25 cups of vegetable broth to the pot.  Bring to a boil.  Once it starts to boil turn heat down to low, cover and simmer 8-10 minutes until the liquid is mostly absorbed.  Be sure to check frequently and stir to make sure the couscous does not burn to the bottom of the pan.

Meanwhile, prepare your vegetables:  Peel and roughly chop the garlic. Peel and mince the ginger. Peel and large dice the onion. Slice the scallion. Large dice the eggplant. Peel and medium dice the sweet potato. Cut the zucchini in half lengthwise, then crosswise into half moons.

To cook the vegetables: In a large pot, heat some olive oil on medium-high until hot. Add the onion and sweet potato. Cook 2 to 3 minutes, or until the onion softens. Stir in the ginger, garlic, cumin, and cinnamon for about 30 seconds, or until fragrant.  Stir in the tomato paste until combined, about 30 seconds. Add the zucchini and eggplant, season with salt and pepper, and cook about 3 minutes, or until softened, stirring occasionally.

Add the canned tomatoes, vegetable broth, and peanut butter.  Stir until combined.  Simmer 10 to 11 minutes, or until the sweet potato is cooked through, stirring occasionally.BA2

Serve Stew over Cooked Israeli couscous and garnish with the scallions!  BA1

This dish was different from a lot of dishes we make in that it was vegetarian and we didn’t feel like it was missing anything.  Sometimes we’ll make a vegetarian dish and feel like it would have been better with chicken/meat/fish added in but this held its own.  The flavors were spectacular and ones that we are not used to working with often.  I really liked this dish and will definitely make it in the future.  It seems versatile in that other vegetables could easily be added to it, depending on what’s in season.  I also got the sense that some stew meat or chicken might be delicious added in as well.

We intend to try a few more Blue Apron recipes before committing to anything but so far this one was definitely a hit!  An added bonus is that this dish did make enough to keep for leftovers for the week.  Ken brought some for lunch today and I’ll likely have some tomorrow.

Petite Lemon!

Back around the time of Julia’s birthday, we decided to buy Julia a growth chart!  Ken’s parents offered to buy us one and we just needed to pick one out.  Having had luck with some of the shops on Etsy, I decided to go there to take a look.  I happened upon a shop called Petite Lemon which had some very cute designs!  I liked that it was based in my own hometown of San Francisco and I read through some of their previous reviews and saw that everyone had been very happy with their work.  The decor in Julia’s room is mostly purple so I was looking for something that would complement the other things in there… and I found this adorable Growth Chart with giraffes on it (you may not know this about me, but giraffes are my favorite animal!)! gc

I was in luck because it came in purple too, so we ordered it and had it personalized with Julia’s name on it!  We wanted it to be seen and not hidden away in her room so we hung it on the wall just outside her room, at the top of the stairs in our house.  Julia loves backing up to it to get measured.  We’ve been trying to measure her once a month and it’s amazing to see how much she grows and how quickly!

A couple of weeks ago I posted this picture on Instagram, and tagged #PetiteLemon in the photo!GC2

Well the shop owner contacted me to ask if they could feature the photo in their own blog and write a little about me and Julia!  Today they posted a lovely blog entry all about us!  Here’s the link where you can check it out: Petite Lemon Blog Post.

Pretty cool, huh?!

Stitch Fix #4

For my previous Stitch Fix Reviews, check out these posts:

Stitch Fix #1

Stitch Fix #2

Stitch Fix #3

I just got my 4th Stitch Fix box yesterday!  This time I was a little more specific with what I was looking for and I did some major editing of my Pinterest Board to make sure that it really reflected my tastes a little more.  I recently bought a pair of White Jeans so I asked for some tops that would look good with those.  I also asked for a Maxi Dress and I mentioned that I have a couple of events coming up (2 weddings plus the associated events–bridal shower, etc.) and that I could use some fun things to wear to those.  I mentioned that I wanted to branch out a little more into brighter colors/patterns as well.

As always, the box arrived right on time and everything was nicely packaged inside! SF8

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There were some fun colors, patterns and textures, though I would really love for them to stop sending me so much black & white.   Yes, I wear a lot of black and white but my goal is to get away from that and add more color into my wardrobe, so these fun colors were great!

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I really felt like the stylist paid attention to my pinterest board and my requests this time since I got 3 fairly versatile dresses and two tops that both work well with white jeans or for work.  Thank you, stylist! :)

I wish we could go outside and take artsy photos like I’ve seen on some fashion blogs, but let’s be honest… I’m a working mother with a busy and active toddler, my husband is busy and frequently on call.  Our house doesn’t look perfect like those of some of the bloggers and we don’t have a perfectly picturesque back yard in which to take well-posed, well-lit fashion photography.  This is real life!

Anyway… I tried everything on to see how it all fit and to start making some decisions!

First up, there was the Cheli Striped Maxi Dress, which is $68SF3

This dress fit well, was the perfect length, and the fabric is nice and soft.  The waist is elastic and kind of bunched up a little weird and I’m not really a big fan of the horizontal stripes.  I also don’t like the way that the stripes don’t match up on the two pieces of fabric above and below the elastic.  While $68 would be a reasonable price to pay for a dress like this if it were something I thought I would get a lot of wear out of, I really see it as being more of a summer-time dress: I imagine wearing it to the beach in Aruba, out to dinner a few times in the summer, maybe to some music festivals, etc.  I was recently at Target and saw a Maxi Dress available for $20 so I think this particular dress will be returned and instead I’ll go find a cheaper version at Target or Old Navy.

Next up there was the Ivy Embroidered Trim Tab-Sleeve Blouse, which is $68SF4

I tried this blouse on with my white jeans but I could also see wearing it with black pants, a jean skirt or another colored pencil skirt.  The material is a little scratchy but I like the embroidered detail, the tab sleeves and the v-neck.  The shirt fits really well, is the right length and I really like the deep blue color.  I haven’t yet decided about this shirt… but I could see this becoming a reliable work shirt!

Next up there was the Eames Gathered Waist Short Sleeve Shirt, which is $58SF5

This shirt is a very nice soft material.  I posted this photo on Facebook and got a bunch of compliments from people who said it’s very figure-flattering with the gathered waist.  I like the say it looks with white jeans and I also tried it on this morning with black pants.  I think it’s fairly versatile in that it can be dressed up or down depending on what else I wear with it.  Ken liked this shirt better than the other shirt… and I haven’t decided quite yet… but feel that I should keep one or the other (or maybe both if I can justify it!)

Next up there was a dress, the Wesley Printed Flutter Sleeve Dress, which is $98!

I was not a fan of this dress… it’s too short, not very flattering, and there was a kind of strange button at the v-neck designed to keep it closed but the button kept coming undone.  I wish I had liked this dress because if I had I could have kept the whole box and gotten the 25% discount for doing so.

Last, but not least, there was a dress, the Lex Textured FLoral Knit Fit & Flare Dress, for $74.  SF2

I loved this dress!  It’s almost a quilted material so it hangs nicely.  It zips up in the back.  The thing that’s nice about this dress is because it’s a heavier material, it can really be quite versatile… I can wear it alone with a pair of sandals in the summer or dress it up a little bit with boots and a jean jacket in the fall or if we’re going out to dinner or a wedding-related event I can add a cardigan, heels and some jewelry and it can be a little more fancy.  I LOVE IT! SF1 Definitely keeping this one!

So basically I have to decide… keep both shirts or just one?  I’m sending back the Maxi dress and getting a cheaper one from Target instead, and I’ll send back the polka-dot dress which was just totally unflattering.

I’m still waiting for that perfect box with five items I want to keep but I figure if I keep getting Fixes every few months, it’s bound to happen eventually!

And as always, if you’re interested in signing up, please feel free to use my referral link!  http://www.stitchfix.com/referral/3042303

What’s your name?

This weekend, Julia learned an important thing: her name!  We started telling her, “your name is Julia” and then asking her, “what’s your name?”  Two times it actually sounded like Julia and then it started sounding more like “Jew-ah” but it was very cute and by the end of the weekend she was reliably answering the question!

Even though Ken was on call this weekend, we had a surprisingly lovely and low-key weekend.  It’s kind of ironic that it takes Ken being on call for us to have a quiet weekend at home but I think it’s because we know he can’t commit to anything so we make fewer plans those weekends.

Friday night after picking up Julia, we made dinner at home, which consisted of coconut-crusted tilapia and steamed artichokes with garlic aioli.

Saturday Ken had a wet lab to go to at Hopkins while Julia and I played at home for a little bit.  Julia “nursed” her Elmo doll:8.4.2014(10)

 

and read a few books while sitting in her chair: 8.4.2014(9)

Then, we went to her friend Amelia’s second birthday party!  (Amelia’s Mama, Kim, writes a very funny blog about Amelia!  You can read it here.)  Julia had tons of fun playing in the pool they set up in their backyard (and drinking the pool water!) 8.4.2014(7)

As soon as she saw that there was a pool she started asking to take off her clothes and get into her bathing suit.  She sure loves being in the water!  She also enjoyed eating a cupcake 8.4.2014(8)

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At one point, one of Amelia’s grandmothers was reading stories to a little boy and Julia climbed right into her lap so she would read to her as well.  I love how Julia doesn’t care whose Grandma someone is: she will gladly climb into a Grandma’s lap if it means she’ll have stories read to her!

After the birthday party we came home for a lovely Mommy & Baby nap, then we played at home in the afternoon!  Julia had tons of fun getting dressed up in a hat and necklaces! 8.4.2014(4)

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8.4.2014(3)Sunday Julia & I went swimming with my cousins, Rachel and David.  Sadly, I didn’t take any pictures but we had a lot of fun!  We went to a swim club not far from Rachel’s house.  They had a playground that Julia enjoyed, there was a perfectly sized kiddie pool for Julia to splash around in and she also asked to go in the big pool.  After the pool we came home for a nap and lunch, then some playground fun with our neighbor Addie & her mom Liz.  8.4.2014

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I think Addie might be Julia’s favorite friend (or else she just has the easiest name to pronounce) since Julia talks about her a lot.  She mentions that we played with Addie’s doggies and that they played in the water at Addie’s house.  It’s pretty cute how much she loves her!

After the playground we came home for dinner and bedtime!

We have tons of excitement coming up… our friends Ed & Susan are coming in on Thursday from New Orleans and then on Monday we leave for Aruba!  We get back on the 17th from Aruba and then on the 29th, Julia and I leave for San Francisco for my best friend Julia’s bridal shower!

Challenges

This has been a very challenging week with Julia.  Even though she’s not even 22 months I think she has really entered the Terrible 2’s.  She does have a lot of words now, but she can’t always communicate to us what she wants or what’s bothering her.  She knows what she wants and when she wants it, she wants it NOW and she gets VERY UPSET if she doesn’t get what she wants.  At home if she doesn’t get what she wants, she sometimes throws things on the floor, or she’ll screech at the top of her lungs and cry, or she’ll do the classic toddler move: lie down on the floor face-down and kick while crying.  At school if she doesn’t get what she wants, she does the screeching thing and unfortunately, she’s developed a bit of a biting problem.  The biting thing started slowly and got worse and worse over time.  We’ve worked together with her teachers and the daycare director to come up with various solutions and they seem to work at times and not work at other times.  We send Julia with a teething necklace that seems to help since it gives her something else to bite/chew on.  She also has teething rings that the teachers can give her if they notice her getting frustrated or angry.  For a while I was sending her to school with breakfast AND lunch so that she was (a) not hungry, and (b) being kept busy during the time she was eating breakfast.  The biting got much better for a while and Julia went a 2-3 week stretch without any incidents but this week it all started again.  We’re not really sure what triggered it but it got fairly bad and I was called yesterday afternoon to pick up Julia a little early from daycare since she hadn’t had a nap and was acting very aggressively toward the other kids in her class.  (Naps are another issue altogether!)  For today and all of next week, a high school volunteer is going to act as Julia’s “shadow,” essentially following her around all day and making sure that she’s engaged in activities, not biting and playing nicely with other kids.  She can also intervene if she notices that Julia is getting frustrated.  Hopefully that helps a bit!

I feel horribly for the parents of the kids Julia is biting because I know it must feel terrible to pick up your kid and see teeth-marks in their arm.  But at the same time, I feel absolutely embarrassed and frustrated by the fact that my child is biting and I feel very helpless at times since it doesn’t happen at home and it is hard to fix when I’m not there to see her exhibiting the undesired behavior.

Everyone tells me that this, too, shall pass and that biting is a very “age appropriate” but not “socially appropriate” behavior in toddlers but it’s gotten to the point that I feel anxiety on my way to daycare to drop Julia off… I worry about what she might do today to get her sent home, and my anxiety on my way there in the afternoons to pick her up is even worse: how many incident reports will she have when I pick her up?  I never know.

In other news…

Last weekend we got to see Uncle Jon, Aunt Sara and Marlee & Jonah for breakfast on Sunday!  7.28.2014

Julia had so much fun watching Marlee and imitating her every move!  You can tell from the way that Julia acts around Marlee that she looks up to her as someone to emulate.  Whatever Marlee ate, Julia wanted to eat, whatever Marlee was doing, Julia wanted to do.  I hope as they get older that they will be close and have fun together.  For now it’s so much fun to watch them interact!  Jonah couldn’t have cared less about Julia… he was in his own little world, practically oblivious to her existence.  But it was still fun to see him!  And of course, it’s always nice to see Jon & Sara!  7.28.2014(3)

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On Saturday, we had a busy morning and then we drove down to Columbia, where we spent some time with our friends Kevin & Beth and their 1-month old son, Nathan!  I waited to hold the baby until Julia was occupied in another room since she does NOT like it when I hold babies!  7.28.2014(4)

She was fine with Ken holding him, but the minute Ken tried to pass the baby to me, she pushed Ken’s arms away and said, “No baby!” 7.28.2014(5)

As long as I wasn’t holding him, she was somewhat oblivious to him, though she would occasionally come over and say, “hi baby!”  But once Beth started getting ready to feed him, Julia was very curious!  She wanted to watch his every move while he was nursing, she brought him a blankie so he wouldn’t be cold, and she wanted to stand and listen to the pump and its funny noises.  Julia is DEFINITELY not ready to be a big sister but it’s always interesting to see how she reacts to seeing babies!

Ken is on call for the next week so I’m hoping it’s a quiet week for him… this weekend Julia and I will hang out at home in the morning while we wait for BGE to come install our “smart meter” and then we’re going to a friend’s 2nd birthday party.  Sunday, depending on the weather, we may try to go swimming with cousins Rachel & David.  Other than that we’ll probably lay low and maybe go on a couple nice walks outside!  Next weekend our friends Ed & Susan are coming to visit from New Orleans.  We’ll go to a couple of baseball games with them, show them around the city and hang out at home to get some packing done since on the 11th we are leaving for ARUBA!  I cannot wait to spend a week with Ken & Julia on the beach, at the pool and just enjoying being together!

Nursing a Toddler

This is what it’s like to nurse a toddler: 7.24.2014

Yesterday while she was nursing, Julia started bumping my nose, so I said “honk honk!”  She’d unlatch for a moment to giggle then latch back on.  “Honk honk!”

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about when/whether to start weaning.  I was going to write a very long post about all the emotions I have surrounding this decision but every time I start writing it, I get teary eyed.  To make a long story short, here’s what I’m feeling…

On the one hand, Julia’s getting to be a little girl.  She’ll be 2 in October and she’s not a baby anymore.  I’m ready to have my body back and to not have to worry about whether my outfit is nursing-friendly each morning.  My body hasn’t been fully mine since January of 2012 when I first got pregnant (I was pregnant for 9 months and I’ve been nursing for 21 months) and it would be nice to have my body back for a while before we start trying to have a second baby (which we aren’t planning for a while, but still…).  We’ll be going away to wine country for one or two nights when we’re in California over Thanksgiving (leaving Julia with my parents overnight for the first time ever!) and I’m thinking that might be the perfect time to wean her.  Leading up to that trip I’ll do the “don’t offer, don’t refuse” approach and then when we come back I’ll tell her the milk is all gone.  She can have whole milk while I’m gone and then when we return we’ll be done nursing.

But on the other hand, she’s only little for a short period of time… it would be nice to know that we kept nursing as long as she wanted to and that we stopped on her terms.  Nursing is such a wonderful tool to have when she’s sick, when she gets hurt, when she’s tired, on airplanes, or to comfort her when she’s scared.

I’m not sure yet what I’m going to do… but I know that our nursing relationship is starting to come to an end and just thinking about it makes me feel very emotional.

Enough about that… here are some pictures our friends shared from a couple weekends ago when they came to visit from Delaware.  Such a fun visit! 7.24.2014(4)

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