Over the past 8 weeks since my miscarriage and D&C I have had some conversations with healthcare providers and others in the healthcare setting that I should not have to have. Examples:
When getting my weekly blood test, one of the phlebotomists saw on my lab slip that I was getting my HCG levels tested. She asked me, “How many weeks are you?” Her job is not to ask questions or to make small talk. Her job is to take my blood and send it to the lab for processing. Obviously she didn’t know. But that shouldn’t happen.
Today, when I called the doctor’s office to ask my Doctor a question, I had the following conversation which shouldn’t have happened:
Me: “Hello, I’d like to ask my Doctor a question…”
Receptionist: “Okay, well are you an OB patient or a GYN patient?”
Receptionist: “Well are you pregnant?”
Again… she doesn’t know anything about what’s going on with me. But this is not a conversation I should have to have 8 weeks post D&C. Luckily I’m doing well emotionally now that I’ve had 2 months to process everything, but if she had asked me that question a few weeks ago, I would have cried right there on the spot. I don’t know if this lack of sensitivity is unique to my doctor’s office or to the healthcare system I use for medical appointments, but something needs to be done.
These providers need to have sensitivity training so that nobody else is put into an awkward situation like that. I wasn’t going to go into detail with her “Well no, I’m not really pregnant… but my HCG levels would have you believe that I am, and I’m being followed and monitored because I had a Partial Molar Pregnancy. And I’m really upset by my answer to your question. No, I’m not pregnant. But I should be.”
Perhaps I should help them to develop a sensitivity training…