Snow snow and more snow!

I haven’t posted in a while because we’ve been busy dealing with snow.  Lots of snow.  I am so sick of snow.  Last week, on Wednesday, the whole state was preparing for anywhere from 6-15 inches of snow.  I didn’t want to get stuck at home with nothing to do for several days, so on my way home from work on Wednesday, I stopped at the Dollar Store to pick up some important supplies.  Some people stopped to get bread, milk and butter but I stopped to get crayons, glue and pompoms.  A friend of mine had suggested getting a “snow day bin” together to pull out on days when you’re stuck inside and need fun things to do with your toddler.  I was determined to have fun and to not get cabin fever.  Well it seemed to work!

Luckily, Ken was also off on Thursday because of the snow.  He did have to get a lot of studying done too, but he had time to play with us a bit, which was nice!  Julia is a big fan of the snow.  2.18.2014(26)She loved playing in the snow so much that she cried when we had to bring her back inside.  Surprisingly the cold didn’t even bother her.  She was actually happy to have her gloves come off and to touch the snow with her bare hands.  She especially liked eating the snow!  2.18.2014(25)

2.18.2014(24)Julia did have her first snow-related injury Thursday morning: she was so excited to be playing in the snow that she ran a little too fast and slipped on the slippery sidewalk.  She face-planted right on our sidewalk.  She paused for a moment (which made me panic) but she quickly got up and started running around again!  Her nose was all scraped and bleeding though, so I put some snow on it and she was completely unfazed.  After we were done playing in the snow, we came back inside to take off our boots and have lunch!2.18.2014(22)  Julia was clearly worn out from so much fun (either that or eating lunch is very hard work) cause she fell asleep in her high chair!  2.18.2014(20)She started yawning and then just conked out right there in her high chair!  I was able to bring her upstairs to change her diaper and then I put her in her crib and she was out like a light. 2.18.2014(21)At home her naps have been horrible… ranging from about 45 minutes to an hour and a half at the most.  I keep hearing about these babies Julia’s age who take 2-3 hour naps every day and I wonder  how that happens.  But then I remind myself that Julia sleeps very well at night (usually) and I’d rather have a baby who sleeps at night and doesn’t take good naps than the other way around so I won’t complain (too much).

After her nap, we worked on some of our art projects!!  We did some finger painting: 2.18.2014(18)

and we also made Valentine’s Day cards for all our family!  In addition to arts and crafts supplies, I also got some letter and number magnets that we played with on a cookie sheet (thanks, Pinterest!) 2.18.2014(19)

and we played with shaving cream in the bath (thanks for the suggestion, Holly!) 2.18.2014(17)

Friday, Ken had to go back to work but daycare was still closed because of all the snow–the main roads were mostly plowed and clear for cars to drive but most of the side roads were still covered in snow.  We hung out at home for a bit in the morning: 2.18.2014(16)

but then we didn’t want to let the snow stop us, so we got ready (in Julia’s Valentine’s Day dress–a hand-me-down from Marlee) to head out for the day!  2.18.2014(15)

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We ran a few errands in the morning before going to get lunch with Miss Steffi.  Then we came home and took a nice nap in the afternoon.  2.18.2014(12)

I made this fun comparison photo showing Julia on Valentine’s Day last year (on the left) and this year (on the right).  2.18.2014(13)

It’s amazing what a difference a year can make!  She’s gone from a little baby to a toddler with a mind of her own in the past year.

Saturday and Sunday, Ken had mandatory study sessions he had to go to, so Julia and I were on our own to make mischief.  We got a lot done both days and of course we had a lot of fun while we were at it!  On Saturday morning, we took some silly selfie pictures (one of Julia’s favorite activities!)2.18.2014(10)

and then we got all bundled up in the Ergo to walk through the snow to the Hopkins bookstore.  Julia likes the Ergo because she can nurse while we’re walking.  It leaves my hands free to do what I need to do, which is nice, and she’ll (sometimes) even fall asleep while we’re walking around!  Here, you can’t even tell that she is nursing! 2.18.2014(8)At the bookstore on Saturday mornings, they have story time for kids.  Julia was the youngest kid there but it didn’t stop her from enjoying herself!  The theme this week was Maisy, from the Maisy book series.  They even had a life-size Maisy.  I wasn’t sure how Julia would react, given her reaction to the Oriole bird the other week… but she was actually much more comfortable with Maisy.  She waved and said hi, and even walked up to Maisy to tickle her feet!  2.18.2014(9)

Luckily the snow stopped falling right after story time was over so we headed home for lunch and a nap.  2.18.2014(6)

2.18.2014(7)Saturday night a babysitter from Julia’s classroom at daycare came over to babysit so that Ken and I could enjoy ourselves for a Valentine’s Day date night!  We went to dinner in Little Italy, got dessert at Vaccarro’s and then went out to see Dr. Corey’s band play a show in Dundalk. 2.18.2014(5)

By the end of the night we were exhausted and we knew that our human alarm clock would be waking us up around 6:30 the next morning so we went home and went to sleep but we did have a lovely night out!  (Our next date night will be next week for Ken’s 30th Birthday!)

Sunday morning I went to brunch with my Uncle Neil, Aunt Karen and cousins Rachel and David.  Neil & Karen decided at the last minute to make a quick visit to Baltimore.  (This is one thing I love about being on the East Coast… we are close enough to family that we can see them for a quick visit like that if we want to.  We’re close enough to Ken’s older brother and our niece and nephew that if we wanted to we could go visit them for a weekend by driving up Friday after work or Saturday morning and driving back Sunday night.)  We went to a great little bistro in Bolton Hill.  Neil & Karen are thinking of possibly moving to Baltimore which would be really nice cause it would mean seeing them more often.  It would be fun for Julia to grow up and really get to know them!2.18.2014(4)

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The only problem with going to brunch in the late morning (as opposed to an early morning breakfast) is that it wears Julia out so much that she often falls asleep in the car on our way home from brunch.  She then gets this idea in her mind that if she’s had 5 minutes of sleep in the car, that’s enough of a nap for her and she will NOT go back to sleep when we get home.  I tried… I tried nursing her back to sleep, I tried putting her down in the crib and rubbing her back, I tried lying down with her in my bed but she would NOT go back to sleep.  So instead, I gave up and we went to Corey & Steffi’s Engagement Party.  We did have a good time but Julia would have been in a much happier place if she had had a nap.  Oh well…

After the party we came home to play a bit, had dinner and then Julia went to sleep.

Yesterday was Presidents Day and since daycare was closed it was yet another Mommy & Julia day!  It was Day #5 of our 5-day snowy weekend!  In the morning we went to breakfast with a new mommy friend and her son and then we went to a local song/play group that happens in the neighborhood next to ours.  Julia had fun singing, dancing and playing with lots of different musical instruments.  We came home to let the house-cleaners in, and then got some errands done in the afternoon.2.18.2014(2)

2.18.2014Julia was in a horrendous mood yesterday evening during dinner (and this morning during breakfast, for that matter!)… she does have a little cold which could be affecting her mood and I think she may have a few more teeth on their way.  She did not want to eat anything… she was throwing food on the floor, putting food in her hair, dropping food on the seat of her high chair.  It was not a pretty sight.  I even tried spoon-feeding her a pouch but she batted my hand out of the way and wanted nothing to do with that.

Everyone has a different opinion about how to deal with toddlers and picky eating/annoying eating behaviors and I don’t know which strategy to use… I know she won’t starve but I don’t feel comfortable sending her to bed without dinner since I fear she will wake up a few hours later hungry, and 11 PM is not time to eat dinner.  (This did happen last night… she went to sleep at 7:30 but was then up at 10:30 wanting to nurse.)  I try to offer her food options I know she likes, but at the same time I don’t want to be a “short order cook” and make her a separate meal from what we’re eating as a family.  It’s one thing to tell an older child, “you don’t have to eat but you just have to sit with the family during dinner time” but you can’t exactly tell a toddler to be patient and sit with the family.  The food throwing is really annoying and we’re figuring out ways to get that to stop… sometimes it helps to give her just one piece of food at a time but sometimes even then she’ll just throw it as us.  I’ve tried giving her 3 warnings that I will take her food away but I need to start taking her out of her high chair and ending the meal time if that happens.  Toddlers are frustrating little creatures but then they give you a big hug or a cute little smile and it just about makes up for it.

This morning our conversation went like this: I put some pieces of clementine and some cheerios on Julia’s high chair tray and she started throwing them, so I took them away and put them on the table, out of her reach.  I then gave her a sippy cup of milk.  She drank some of that and then threw it at me, so I put it on the table.  She looked at me longingly and said, “more.”  I offered her one piece of orange and said, “do you want some orange?”  “NO!”  I offered her one cheerio and asked, “do you want some cheerios?”  “NO!”  I then went to the kitchen to get a pouch and a spoon.  I showed her the spoon and asked her, “do you want some bananas and pumpkin?”  “NO!” Then she said it again: “more!” (I should add that “more” and “milk” sound a lot alike).  So I offered her the sippy cup again and she pushed my hand out of the way, yelling “NO!”  At that point I gave up, put on her jacket and we went to daycare.  I know she won’t starve since they feed her snacks and lunch at daycare but this behavior makes me wonder how more toddlers don’t get thrown away with the trash.

Thank you, Mommy, for not throwing me away!

 

Julia’s 15-month Checkup

Yesterday we had Julia’s 15-month checkup with her pediatrician.  First, I just have to say that I love her pediatrician.  She really makes you feel like she’s giving you her full and undivided attention.  She answers all of your questions and she literally spent about 45 minutes with us yesterday.  At no point did I feel like she was rushing me or she was in a hurry to get out of the room.  She always is respectful, even when I ask seemingly silly questions.  It’s so refreshing to have a doctor who you trust so fully with your or your child’s care.  I can’t speak highly enough of her.

So let’s start, from head to toe:

First, her statistics: her head is 47 centimeters (75th percentile), she weighs 25 lbs. 3 oz. and is 32 inches tall.  Her height is in the 90th percentile for girls her age and her weight is in the 80th percentile.  The doctor said she was growing nicely and did not seem at all concerned.  It’s a nice change from those first few doctor’s appointments we had when we were struggling with breastfeeding and were happy if she gained even a few ounces from one visit to the next!

Teeth: The doctor saw that Julia has 5 teeth that have broken the surface and one more that is about to break through.  I asked her when we need to start brushing her teeth and when we need to think about taking her for a visit to the dentist.  She said that provided she’s not eating junk food (which she’s not), we can wait until she’s 3 years old for a visit to the dentist.  Before then she won’t have the patience or even the ability to sit still in a dentist’s chair long enough to have her teeth cleaned or examined.  We do, however, need to start brushing her teeth.  The doctor said at this age we should do whatever she’ll tolerate–if she’ll tolerate the toothbrush with toothpaste we can do that and try to get in there and brush or we can just let her chew on the toothbrush and use a washcloth with our finger to scrub them a little when she’s taking a bath.

This morning, after we had breakfast I decided to give her the toothbrush and see how she would do.  She LOVED brushing her teeth!  I sat down on the floor next to her and showed her how to do it and she just had a grand old time!  She even cried when I took the toothbrush away from her since it was time to go to daycare! Here we were, having our toothbrush party this morning: 1.10.2014(3)

1.10.2014(4)(Side note: those overalls are really cute, aren’t they?!  But they were obviously designed by someone who does NOT have children since they are totally impractical.  They don’t have buttons or snaps at the crotch to allow for easy diaper changing.  You literally have to take the overalls all the way off in order to change the baby’s diaper.  And they’re made for size 18 months.  I’ve never even heard of a baby who’s potty-trained by 18 months.)

Language Development: Ken & I were both getting a little concerned about the fact that Julia still doesn’t call us Mama & Dada.  She frequently says “dadada” and “mamama” but she never directs those specific words at us.  So I asked the doctor about where she should be with language development at this age.  She said by this age she should have 2-3 words that we know she is saying.  (She definitely does–she says “nice,” “cat,” “ball,” “nose,” and a few others here and there.)  And she said that more important than having actual words, is that she babbles with “communicative intent” and changing her intonation.  She DEFINITELY does that.  A lot.  So I’m not worried!

Nutrition: The doctor said that as far as toddler nutrition is concerned, you have to look at their intake of food over the course of a week and make sure they are getting in enough protein, fruits and vegetables, Vitamin D, iron, etc. but that in one day if she eats nothing but yogurt that’s okay as long as she’s making up for it on the other days of the week by eating more fruits and vegetables and less dairy.  She should be drinking 16-24 oz. of milk a day and we can also start giving her water more regularly to help with her occasional constipation.  Generally these days, on daycare days she gets 3 sippy cups (so about 15 oz.) of whole milk, and she nurses 3 times in addition to that, and on non daycare days she generally nurses 5 times and gets 2 (so 10 oz. total) cups of milk.

Motor Skills: The doctor saw that Julia was walking, trying to climb up onto chairs, could use two fingers to pick up small objects on the floor, helps with getting herself dressed by extending her arm when you hold her sleeve for her, etc. and she said that over the next 3 months we should start to see more and more independence.  We’ll start to see her successfully climbing up onto the couch and chairs, we’ll start to see her learn to rotate her wrist in such a way that she’ll be able to start using a fork and knife to feed herself, etc. The longer she walks and discovers how her body moves, the more graceful her movements will become, basically.

Sleep: At this age and especially with all the teething going on, it’s normal for her to be woken up in the middle of the night or even to wake up at horrible times (like 5:30 this morning) because her teeth are probably quite painful.  But the doctor was pleased to hear that the average night of sleep for Julia involves her sleeping through the night from about 7:30-6 and that she normally gets a 1-2 hour nap at home or at daycare.   1.10.2014

Overall the doctor was very pleased with how Julia is doing!  She also got 3 shots yesterday: the second part of her flu shot (for babies they divide it into two parts), PCV (pneumococcal), and her first MMR shot.  She screamed for about a minute after the shots but then she quickly calmed down and was back to normal by the time we left the doctor’s office!

It’s hard to believe that the next time we take her to the doctor for a well-visit, it will be for her 18-month checkup!  Where did my baby go?  1.10.2014(2)

 

Rough Day

Yesterday was a rough day for Mama.  It started out with Julia sleeping in until 6:45.  While the extra sleep in the morning was lovely, I can always tell something’s not quite right when she sleeps in that late.  She was in a very good mood while nursing and immediately afterward.  Then, I put her in her highchair for breakfast.  She was fine until I had to run upstairs for 1 minute.  While I was gone, she started crying.  Normally if she cries when I leave the room, she’ll calm down once she sees me again, but this time she didn’t.  She kept crying.

I took these photos for “Why my child is crying” posts on our Pumpkin Patch group and then I took her out of her highchair to calm her down with some nursing:11.20.2013(2)

11.20.2013She calmed down a little bit but once we went outside and I strapped her into her carseat, the crying started again: 11.20.2013(3)

We drove about five minutes from our house and at that point, the screaming was so intense that I pulled over and took Julia out of the car to try and see what was wrong.  I smelled her tush to see if she had a dirty diaper (nope).  I checked her forehead to see if she felt feverish (nope).  Given where we were, I couldn’t just nurse her right there… and it didn’t seem like that would help (since she had already nursed and eaten breakfast).  So I just held her for a few minutes and we walked around the car a few times, then I put her back in the car.  She then proceeded to cry the whole way to daycare.  I tried singing.  I tried talking to her.  I turned the radio on.  I turned the radio off.  I tried jazz music.  I tried classical.  I tried rock.  I tried children’s music.  Nothing worked.  By the time we got to daycare, even I was in tears!

When we got into her classroom, Julia struggled to wriggle out of my arms and went over to sit in the lap of her daycare teacher.  But the crying continued for about 10-15 minutes while I sat there and watched her, tried to engage her in activities, and was just generally concerned about what was bothering her.  She finally seemed to settle down enough that I felt comfortable leaving, so I left to go to work.

An hour after I got to work, Julia’s daycare teacher called to say she had been crying on and off since  I had left.  She also mentioned that they used a thermometer that checks the temperature behind the ears and that one ear was hotter than the other.  So I called Julia’s pediatrician and made an appointment for 2 PM.  I picked Julia up around 1 and took her straight to the doctor.  Sure enough, she has an ear infection in one ear.  Poor thing!  At least we know why she was so fussy yesterday morning though… even with that knowledge, yesterday was an emotionally exhausting morning.  The hardest part was when Julia crawled over to her daycare teacher and didn’t seem comforted by me at all.  Guilty mom thoughts started swimming around in my head: am I working too much?  Does Julia spend too much time at daycare?  Should I be a stay at home mom?  Does she not love me as much as she loves her daycare teachers?  Does she like it better at daycare than she does at home?  I mentioned these concerns to one of the ladies at work and her reply was, “she’s just getting you ready for her becoming a teenager when she’ll start to tell you that she hates you and you’re the worst mother in the world.”  Good points… but it was still hard to swallow.  I’m looking forward to the next few weeks when we’ll be spending a bit more time together as Mommy & Baby (since daycare closes for a few days over Thanksgiving and a few days over Christmas).  I think we need some more  time together just the two of us when we’re both awake and happily playful.